Is it just us or do all couples have a holiday argument? I ask this because I am just back from a two week jollie avec famille dans la Riviera.
It usually happens on around day 3 but this year the argument came about day 5, which is a bit late for us.
Basically, as you and husband are not used to being around each other 24/7, you end up rubbing each other up the wrong way. And not in a teenage sexual experimentation kind of way. (If only!)
You've gone through the traumas of packing, bundling kids in car, the airport and flight or, in our case, a pretty tiresome 12 hour car journey. You really need to shout at someone and off load a bit of tension. But you are on holiday and you are trying really hard to be, well,...nice! Projecting an image of the perfect family.
By day five I had read two chick lit books. Which had pumped my brain with visions of perfect men, romance and love.
Here we were walking around in ill fitting swimwear with too much body hair on display, barely grunting at each other on a night due to exhaustion from dealing with over tired, over heated and over hungry children.
There's me secretly longing for my husband to be a leading man from one of my trashy novels who would make me go weak at the knees. Damn those chick lit books. They always make me feel like I've picked the wrong fella for 24 hours after I have read the last page.
Our holiday row began with an accusation that I was allowing the children too many treats, and then it moved on to his work, money stress, me getting a job, him being moody to perhaps we were not suited after all, should we be heading for the divorce courts? We bicker like Peter and Katie. We'll end up hating each other, and perhaps we would be happier going it alone? It moved on to him promising to not be moody, try harder, love me more, me promising to be kinder, to understand his work pressures, saying he's not so bad after all and actually telling him he's a top daddy.
So, an hour of tears, shouting and getting the last 6 months of everything that had bugged us out in the open. There was a huge sense of relief. Let the holiday commence!
For the second week, we were like honeymooners and all was right in the world. Birds were cheeping around us and hearts were flying in the air above us.
The holiday is now over, and I'm sure this feeling will probably last ooh...as long as the tan...?
11 comments:
Sounds perfectly normal to me x Hang in there sweetie, parenting is the hardest job in the world xx
Oh please don't compare yourselves to Katie and Peter, CTTF.
I think there's a strain on holidays to be nice to each other as you don't usually see your partner every day. Somehow that puts a tension on it.
Fathers Day the same, the nicer i tried to be, the snappier i was!
bet you're glad to come home xxx
Of course we don't argue! We meditate daily, take long refreshing walks discussing our positive points, use half an hour a day as a mutual appreciation time, Husband considers at length his shortcomings and promises to do better then allows himself time to praise me for my perfect parenting and general wifeliness. Oh our holidays fly by. MH
Nothing like a good argument to put the zing into a holiday!
We usually argue at the start and then calm down and start enjoying ourselves!
Perhaps you need the argument to reassess and realise that you actually are good together?
We don't have that argument day because husband just doesn't listen to anything I say anyway, so I prattle on and he continues in blissful ignorance!
Perhaps it will be different in the heat of Menorca this year - stay tuned!
What - you mean you don't argue about the fact that you have to do all the packing? Or the fact that the suitcase just sits there on your return, waiting for legs so that it can miraculously walk over to the washing machine and empty the contens in there? Well done.
It's sounds normal to me. It's so difficult to avoid them...
I totally identify with this post! I think it's because you both know that you can say what you like to each other and neither of you can go anywhere - you both HAVE to get through it - and so you can say what you like and making up is the only option.... I love a good old holiday argument. Especially when it's over a ridiculously elaborate cocktail. Classic.
I thought the argument was included when you buy the holiday package right? ;)
BTW there is an award for you in my blog sweetie!
Glad you had a nice hols, looking forward to mine, whenever that is lol
x
Auntie - I'm hanging on in my lovely. You seem to do a pretty good job judging by your beautiful children.
Jenny - You make me laugh. I know what you mean about father's day! And the harder you try to be nice the harder it actually is to be nice! Thanks for still visiting despite my erratic posts!
MH - Are you sure you're not Trudi and Sting?? Please invite me on your next hols, it sounds enlightening...
Ex- nappy valley girl - Hope all is going ok in the US. I imagine Nappy Valley is missing you!
Adventure Mother - Ditto.
Working Mum - I like the sound of your husband! Mine wouldn't tolerate my prattling. Only if he was wearing earplugs! Enjoy Menorca!
Expat Mum - Funnily enough, I don't think we have the energy to argue upon our return. This year I was so glad to be home, I didn't even care about the huge pile of ironing!
MelRox - Ooh, I like being normal. Thanks.
Domestic Rebel - Hello there! Great to know I/We are not the only ones.
Polkadotmummy - thanks so much for a lovely award. You are very very very kind. xx
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