Newly married Peaches Geldof is 19 and thinking it will last forever.
I have a confession to make, I almost did a Peaches.
I was 20, in love and in Vegas.
I said, 'Let's get married.'
He said, 'I'm not drunk enough.'
My heart sunk. That wasn't romantic. We were meant to be Clarence and Alabama (have you seen True Romance?) and have a kid called Elvis.
But now, ten or more years down the line, I am so pleased he didn't walk me up the aisle in the little chapel of shattered dreams in Vegas.
When I met him, I felt like my senses had been awakened. So this is what poetry is all about? This is what everyone is talking about, this tortured feeling, this not being able to eat, this wanting him inside me every second of the day and wanting to crawl into his skin so I could be closer to him. If I could have slept with my lips attached to his breathing only his air, I would have.
We left Vegas, unmarried and carried on our road trip. By the time we got to Texas, we were almost over. I'd found out he was arranging a huge 21st birthday party. Only I wasn't invited. His ex girlfriend was. We stayed together for another six months until I walked in on him with another girl.
So, I look at Peaches and think, I'm so glad I didn't do it (especially when I see piccies of my ex on Facebook now). She will find out in her own time that at 19, you don't know it all, and what seems a good idea, well, five years later could just be plain embarrassing for all concerned (ask Britney Spears).
Of course, I hope I'm wrong. How nice it would be if Peaches and Max do grow old together and have the fairy tale marriage. I just know that it would never have worked for me and my Vegas boy, because true love isn't about feeling tortured, not eating and having sex all the time.
Love is about lots of things, like commitment, trust, getting through, sharing the ups and the downs, having children together, getting through the mundane and still trying to have sex all the time...
12 comments:
'Why?' is the obvious question. Perhaps Philip Larkin was right after all!
I too suspect it's all going to end very badly. However, my hubby's mother and father married at 17 and are still very much together 45 years down the line. Of course she wasn't a media celebrity with a famous for the wrong reasons mother and an inferiority complex about her sister, but there you go!
The dotteral - Philip Larkin is right, of course. Now I am a parent, I have no doubt I will do the same in some ways to my chidren, no matter how hard I try not to. But at the same time you have to stop blaming them when you become an adult in your own right, don't you?
Tara - I know, my grandparents married at 18 and had a very successful 48 years together. But I know for a fact she didn't jet off to see her dad as soon as she'd tied the knot!
Good luck to them !!!
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Auntiegwen - yep, good luck indeed. Would be nice to have a happy ending. Thanks for tip on grey cardi. Looks lovely. Now, I don't wanna sound like an old bid, but let me know how it washes...actually, do you wash cashmere??
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You never know, my mum married my dad when she was 19 and they are celebrating their 40th Anniversary next year. Does happen!
What a brilliantly told story! - and with a great ending.
As for peaches... hmm...
I did a Peaches and married at 19 -- three kids later and many ups and downs, we're still together!
Anyway, great blog! I LOVE Take That too!
Very wise words confused.
I see my first love every now and again and think...how glad I am that I'm not one of his ex-wives playing single mother.
mom/mum - thanks for the praise, you are too kind...
Working mum - yep, for all the failiures there are the success stories too...
Elsie B - Thanks lovely.
Crunchiemummy - Well done you. Share your secrets to success please! Thanks for visiting btw.
Frog - sounds like a lucky escape!
What a lovely post, and yes I fear 'doing a Peaches' will be a phrase I hope never to use about my daughter MH
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